What if seeing someone else living the life you desire isn’t a reason to feel behind, but a reason to get deliciously excited?
We’ve been told to stop comparing ourselves to other people. And for good reason.
Comparing yourself to anyone else—what they have or don’t have, where you are versus where they seem to be—rarely serves you.
You are you. You are enough just as you are. You are on your own journey.
But seeing something in someone else’s life that you admire, desire, or relate to? That can be something entirely different.
Possibility.
What if you saw possibility instead of lack?
Trust that what you’re seeing might be reflecting something that’s already alive within you. A desire. An inner knowing. A possibility you haven’t fully allowed yourself to believe in yet.
What a gift.✨
Let it excite you. Inspire you. Fuel the fire within.
Let it be an example. Proof of what’s possible.
Not evidence that you’re lacking something.
Get curious.
What story of your limitation might not actually be true?
What might a new story be that aligns with what you want to have, create, call in, or become?
Something to consider—why would you choose to beleive in limitations when you can choose to believe in possibilities?!
I have some thoughts on this…
The limitations we create in our heads
More and more I’m being shown that many of the limitations we come up against are the ones we create in our heads.
I know this. I’m aware of it. Yet, I still find myself placing limits. Not consciously. Like this strange little default mechanism that still kicks in. Even with all the work. Practicing awareness. Releasing limiting thoughts and beliefs. On repeat. For years.
Two things.
1. There are layers. Apparently many.
Likely lifelong. The difference I’ve noticed over the past few years—I’m in awe of the realizations, the stories, the limitations, the untruths when they are revealed. And I can laugh at them. Like, “Ooohhh, there’s that thing AGAIN! Still.” They’re all part of the buttery, layered croissant that makes up me.
And I get to choose what no longer applies. What no longer gets fed. There’s less frustration. Less judgment around it. Because I don’t hold onto it. I don’t make it mean anything. I don’t attach my identity to it.
2. Life happens.
Things come back up for us. There are new challenges, detours, opportunities. Ways for us to look at ourselves, our behaviors, our patterns, what’s working, what’s not, who we’re being. To choose with intention who we’re becoming. And with that, what we need to let go of, what we need to unlearn, and who we need to unbecome.
It’s wild how we can run through an entire three-act play in our heads about the limitations. Creating the story. Deciding somehow that it’s true.
It’s actually funny.
And then you come across someone who’s doing the very thing you told yourself wasn’t possible. Proof that the limitation, the story wasn’t necessarily true. Instead of a comparison spiral, it becomes inspiration. A sign. The permission slip you didn’t know you needed.
Leave room for the unexpected
Life is full of limitless possibilities. Beyond your wildest imagination. Beyond the stories you tell yourself. Beyond your limiting beliefs.
If you’re going to tell stories, create from possibility. Not lack, not limitation.
Make a plan. Set a goal. If that’s your thing.
Be a little (or a lot) delusional.
No limits.
And then leave room for the unexpected.✨
If guilt has been part of your own good-girl conditioning, you might also like The Permission I Gave Myself, where I share how releasing guilt changed the way I live.