Midlife

I had a little aha this week that I can’t stop thinking about.I was in a room with people I love, talking about life—work, family, retirement, the future. And somewhere in the conversation, I felt a subtle but noticeable disconnect.Not a disconnect from the people. If I had to name it, I’d say it was more a disconnect from myself. A signal from my body. A little trigger.And then my mind immediately got involved.The feeling came first.The story about what the feeling meant came second.I started quietly doubting my life. My decisions. WTAF am I doing? It wasnâ[...]

I’m not sure why this is coming through right now.  I’m not feeling especially good. Or bad. Nothing triggered it. There's no one story to illustrate it. There are many. And I have a feeling you probably have plenty of your own. So I’ll just share what came through…  The motherfucking good girl.An identity I was handed that never felt like me. I spent my entire life trying to be good, oftentimes unconsciously. I felt ashamed when I failed. Even if I didn’t label it as shame. I see it now. I felt guilty for wanting something different. Good never felt[...]

I’m not sure why this is coming through right now.  I’m not feeling especially good. Or bad. Nothing triggered it. There's no one story to illustrate it. There are many. And I have a feeling you probably have plenty of your own. So I’ll just share what came through…  The motherfucking good girl.An identity I was handed that never felt like me. I spent my entire life trying to be good, oftentimes unconsciously. I felt ashamed when I failed. Even if I didn’t label it as shame. I see it now. I felt guilty for wanting something different. Good never felt[...]

Don’t Make Yourself Small. On expansion, releasing what we've outgrown, and trusting where life is leading us. This was the message I received this week: Don't make yourself small. Expand into where life is leading you. I love everything about it. And the timing couldn’t be more perfect. I felt drawn to my Rumi oracle deck. I hadn’t pulled a card in over a month, but something called me to it. And I followed. An invitation to quiet, to stillness, to go within. I held the deck and asked to be shown — from my heart — the guidance I need right now. What’s[...]

I almost missed years of this view because I was convinced it had to look a very specific way. Here's what happened... When Life Pulls You Somewhere That Makes No Sense I was in the midst of my divorce and decided I was moving to New York City. I'd always loved the city, but living there had never crossed my mind. My ex-husband never would have considered it. It wasn't his thing. I felt a strong pull to radically change my environment. I didn't want to run into people from that life. And honestly, I never really wanted to live in that town to begin with. NYC—spe[...]

What is Mysguided™? The word dropped in loudly, and has been quietly circling me for years – Mysguided™. It felt big. Huge. But what was it meant to be? What did I want it to be? What is the goal, the strategy, the visual identity? Was it a brand? A website? A product? An offer? How was I meant to express this beautiful word that came through me so strongly and wouldn’t leave me alone? So it lived in my head – and on paper. For years. Journal entries, notes to myself, little moments scribbled down whenever something felt Mysguided. And then this week, a[...]

Three simple reminders that keep bringing me back to myself when life feels uncertain. As I navigate this chapter of life — with so many unknowns and all the change that comes with midlife — there are three things I keep coming back to.  Things that help me return to myself. Things that make me feel alive. Reminders of who I am. Ways of staying in the frequency of who I want to be, who I’m becoming.  This chapter can be confusing, lonely, amazing, beautiful, eye-opening, frustrating, magical, empowering, uncertain. Sometimes all in the same hour.  More[...]

Follow your joy WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO FOLLOW YOUR JOY?I've learned that finding more joy isn't about changing your entire life overnight. It's built in small moments—your morning coffee, walks outside, the trip you finally book, the conversation that lights you up, the music that moves your soul, the place that makes you feel alive. Those tiny choices create a life that feels more like yours.Joy isn’t about waiting for life to be perfect or for everything to fall into place. It’s paying attention to the moments that make you smile. The moments that mak[...]